You can’t make a difference or an impact on your friends’ lives by agreeing with them, providing sympathy or compassion. If you want to support your friends, try sticking your finger in their deepest emotional wound and wiggle it around a bit. They’ll thank you for it later. It’s like ripping the bandage off your skin versus living with it hoping it will eventually just fall off on its own.

You are doing a disservice and injustice to people around you by allowing them to be out of integrity with themselves. To lie to themselves. You have to ask yourself if you want to continue being a sounding board for people to talk themselves into feeling better and avoiding dealing with their suffering—or if you want to help them.

This was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn. I saw it, and I didn’t know how to tell people what I saw, and I wasn’t prepared for the potential backlash.

You have to ask yourself if it’s worth spending the rest of your life being someone who watches everyone crash and burn to be loved by all; or if you want to be the person who provides nudges and course corrections simply because the opportunity is there and you’d rather be true to yourself.

You can’t rip the skin off a snake, but you can rip the bandage off your skin. And if you want to Wake Up, that’s exactly what you have to do.

If people only love what you have to say, that’s a sign you’re not helping them. If you really want to help someone, try telling them the truth with no filter. Piss them off and force them to look in the mirror. It might take them a decade or two, but eventually, if they look, they’ll thank you – eventually.