The world we experience through absorption of energy directly in the moment is not the world we describe to the people in our lives. Words build walls that keep the depth and real meaning from passing through. Everything important seems to be lost in translation. It’s not possible to translate in whole what the heart feels through words. What is felt must be felt. That is the ultimate truth. All words are lies, somewhere, to someone.
Words are a form of linear communication. Whether they are spoken, written or read silently – their messages are conveyed in a linear fashion to describe events of the past… as opposed to pure absorption of a situation which can only be done in the moment. Not before and not afterward.
Words are always a lie to someone. Words taint the truth. Words are just tools to communicate knowledge and we all know that knowledge is just a collection of other people’s stories reiterated and memorized by other storytellers. Words describe moments which have passed – they can never describe the present moment simply because by the time words are spoken or expressed, the moment has passed, and will never be again.
Without words there can be no lies. The only way to experience pure, untainted truth, is to experience each moment WITHIN the moment, silently…
When we absorb a moment in our lives our heart allows us to experience it in full on the inside. Silently. Privately. We absorb every detail. Our thoughts race in a non-linear fashion in ways indescribable to others. We aren’t afraid to think and feel the depth that presents itself to us. But on the outside, other people demand “knowledge” of what we have experienced. That’s what creates the problem. We want to be able to tell others what our heart feels but we can’t for so many reasons. First, we cannot accurately translate feelings to words simply because emotions have to be felt to be fully understood. Words, when expressed to others, will automatically be interpreted based on an individual’s life experiences. People relate our words to their life experience, not ours. So already words become a barrier of complications that actually prevent people from really understanding what we’ve experienced in our heart.
When you love someone in this moment – right now – yesterday shouldn’t matter and tomorrow shouldn’t exist.
Words are what directly cause misunderstandings and lead to the lies we all tell each other. When we feel what’s inside someone else’s heart through absorption, we can’t possibly misinterpret absolute truth. The heart never lies. It’s only when we use words to try to explain to people what we feel that things fall apart. We feel pressure to meet expectations and when we can’t meet them we feel shame, guilt and sometimes embarrassment. We feel pressure to gain approval from others, and, based on the idea that people won’t like us or accept us unless we do what -they- want… sometimes we try to change our behavior to fit what we believe other people want from us. We let others take advantage of us and we lose our innate ability to stand up for ourselves because we become conditioned to please others above all else.
Is it too idealistic to want to have the opportunity to absorb the truth of what is in each others hearts? When are we actually able to absorb the truth the heart speaks? The reality is we don’t always get that chance with everyone, unfortunately. The only way is for others to provide us with that chance – and vice versa. Not everyone is comfortable with that.
When we use words to describe to people what we feel, they become confused if we can’t explain it to their satisfaction or expectations. Perhaps our words don’t match what they view as their contribution to our lives. Not by any fault of our own… but the failure of our choice of words to be powerful enough to convey the depth of what we feel in our hearts might cause people to feel not good enough, like they’ve failed somehow…
Thus exaggeration is born. Telling people what they want to hear. Sometimes honestly believing that it’s truth simply because we want it to be truth.
Daily conversation is just a form of communicating knowledge. Knowledge is always tainted to some degree. It’s as though the world is playing a constant game of “telephone” but there are no operators waiting to help us determine truth from fiction in our own lives let alone anyone else’s.
And once we’ve been conditioned to transform our own feelings, deny what our heart feels, cover up our true emotions… all because other people hold us to impossible expectations and demand words from us… we embody the lie that becomes our truth.
“Whenever I have to justify,
The truth I speak to you becomes my white lie…”
Once we lie, we feel the need to apologize when it is discovered. But what are apologies? They are just more confusing, complicated words. But they shouldn’t be. Apologies should be delivered unspoken, untainted… as pure communication from one heart to another. For most people – apologies are never enough. Why? Because they’re just words.
The best apologies are not really apologies at all and are non-verbal expressions of truth. Once the truth is known, is an apology really necessary? Non-verbal apologies don’t allow us to hold onto our anger. Why? Because once we feel what is in someone else’s heart we cannot hold onto our anger anymore. The direct result of absorption of the truth is that it replaces the past instantaneously.
What happens when someone doesn’t accept our apology?
Unaccepted apologies are a way of saying the right combination of words and actions has not been expressed; our expectations have not been met. We force people to keep trying and trying until they’ve said the right thing at the right time even though it’s never enough for most people. It’s never enough because it’s not real. Words are not real. But when you apologize through absorption and transference of energy – when you speak FROM the heart TO the heart – it leaves no chance of being unaccepted simply because the heart cannot reject the truth of what another heart feels.